Balance Through Truth Telling
At the end of each Qigong and meditation session, I guide my participants through a closing procedure that I developed over the years. I ask them to place their palms together in a prayer position and place their palms between their eyebrows. From this position we remind ourselves to wake up, learn to see things as they are, allowing our eyes to be windows (instead of projectors) knowing that our energy will follow that awareness. This first part of the closing procedure prepares them for truth telling.
I then ask them to bring their palms in front of their mouths and we remind ourselves to speak our truth, even if we believe it will cause discomfort to others.
Finally, we lower our palms in front of our hearts, the place from which we speak and live. When we speak and live from the heart, it is easier to speak our truth with love. We seal this ritual with a few slow deep breaths and then we end our session. Most participants tell me that they tend to struggle with truth telling. They want to know:
- How to tell the truth?
- When to tell the truth?
- How much truth to tell?
- Why bother telling the truth?
- How to know when it is better to leave words unsaid?
A Simple Formula ...
All roads lead back to self awareness. If you are willing to take a moment to check in with yourself so that you can see things as they are you'll know whether or not your eyes are windows or projectors. Our brains are like DVRs. They "play back" what we have recorded into them. It is important for us to realize that many of these recordings are illusions. Meditative practices such as Qigong, breathing exercises and meditation help you to know the difference between what is real and what is influenced by projections of your past.
I learned a simple formula from Deepak Chopra which fits into my body whispering category of "Radiant Health Communication." Ask yourself:
- Is what I'm about to say kind?
- Is it true?
- Is it necessary?
- Does it improve upon the silence?
If you can answer "yes" to all of the questions above then you can confidently proceed with authentic communication that comes from your heart. Otherwise, be silent, observe, actively listen and meditate for a realization regarding your current situation. It is helpful to post these questions in areas that are easily visible to you (i.e. work, home) where you may encounter people who "push your buttons."
Benefits to Truth Telling
When you speak your truth with mindfulness, love and grace ... even if you believe it may upset others you will:
- Improve your clarity of thought
- Remove mental blocks and confusion
- Release repressed stress and tension
- Become more productive and efficient
- Create higher quality relationships
- Heal troubled relationships
- Eliminate toxic relationships
Your mission is to be true to yourself. You cannot "predict" how a person may respond. There is an art and grace to truth telling. Practice the Radiant Breath Awareness Exercise to help you stay rooted and grounded in the truest part of yourself, and to give you the wisdom and courage to know how to speak your truth..